How to Handle Rejection

Whether it is about from your smash, a potential employer, or a publisher, being rejected is never fun. And it can include far-reaching results, especially if curious about been elevated to believe that your self-worth is dependent on others’ approval. In the long run, healthy handling of being rejected is key to making a strong feeling of self and building strength.

Start with recognizing what you’re feeling, says Morin. Take a handful of deep breaths to ease physical signs of stress—accelerated heartrate, tightness in the chest—and practice calming your thoughts.

You may also use an activity you love—reading, taking a rise, doing exercises, or learning something at the same time new—to shift your focus from your rejection. “This will help prevent a ‘everything is terrible’ way of thinking, and instead concentrates you about things that provide you with joy, inch she says.

Eventually, it’s the perfect time to reframe what happened. “It’s not always convenient, but when you may step back and say, ‘Hey, they were not the right fit for me—that’s excellent! ‘, that makes it easier to push on, inch says Becker-Phelps.

It’s also useful to consider what you learned from experience, and exactly how it might effect the future choices. As an example, if you’re turned down by your crush, do not forget that he or she don’t necessarily reject you because of the personality, but perhaps mainly because of something they’re currently heading through—like employment transition, to illustrate. In that case, your future “at bat” may hit the jackpot feature. Likewise, when you are turned down for the role in your favorite video gaming, try pitching another idea to the publisher.